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Why Loving Someone Deeply Can Make Losing Them Feel Like It’s Already Happening
The short answer: Loss anxiety is the anxiety of attachment. It fires when a bond we depend on for emotional grounding starts to feel more fragile…
What Is Safety Anxiety, and Why Does It Fire When Nothing Is Actually Wrong?
The short answer: Safety anxiety is the nervous system scanning for threats to our physical and emotional safety, our autonomy, and our ability to…
Why Do We Feel Like We Have to Handle Everything?
The short answer: Because three overlapping anxieties are running at the same time, and they’re not all pulling in the same direction….
What Is Anxiety?
The short answer: Anxiety is a response the nervous system produces when it perceives a threat, real or imagined. It generates emotions, physical…
Why Procrastination Is Often an Anxiety Problem, Not a Discipline Problem
The short answer: Procrastination is frequently driven by anxiety rather than laziness or poor discipline. Capacity anxiety, the signal that the…
What Is Existential Anxiety and Why Does It Show Up on Ordinary Days
The short answer: Existential anxiety is the nervous system’s response to a perceived threat to meaning, purpose, and the belief that life…
Why the Same Anxiety Advice Keeps Failing (And What to Try Instead)
The short answer: Anxiety advice tends to fail when it’s applied to the wrong type of anxiety, not because the advice is wrong or because the…
AUTHOR AND BOOKS
About
My Story
Hi, I’m Nikki. I’m a design consultant, which basically means I spend time trying to make complicated things clearer and more accessible. Apparently I can’t turn that off. At some point I applied that same impulse to my own anxiety, as a way of understanding experiences that didn’t fit the usual explanations. I started naming things more precisely and asking questions I couldn’t always answer. Over time, a pattern emerged that fundamentally changed how I relate to and think about anxiety. I’m not even sure I experience anxiety in the same way anymore. So I wrote this book.
